When someone you care about is grieving, it can be hard to know what to say or how to help. You may worry about saying the wrong thing or feel unsure of what they truly need. The truth is, there’s no perfect way to ease someone’s pain — but your presence, compassion, and support can make a world of difference.

Understanding Grief and Its Stages

Grief is not a single emotion. It’s a process that looks different for everyone. Some may feel sadness or anger, while others experience guilt, numbness, or even moments of relief. The “stages” of grief are not linear, but they can help explain the range of feelings someone might experience: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

For more about these stages, explore our resource on the Four Steps of Grieving and the National Institute on Aging’s guide on coping with grief and loss. Remember: grieving is not about moving on quickly — it’s about learning how to move forward while honoring the loss.

Phrases That Help — and Those That Hurt

Words matter. While no phrase will erase someone’s pain, the way we respond can either bring comfort or unintentionally add to the hurt. When in doubt, keep your words simple, sincere, and kind.

Helpful things to say:

  • “I’m so sorry for your loss.”
  • “I’m here for you.”
  • “I don’t know exactly what to say, but I want you to know I care.”
  • Sharing a fond memory of the person who has passed.

Phrases to avoid:

  • “They’re in a better place now.”
  • “At least they lived a long life.”
  • “I know exactly how you feel.”
  • “It’s time to move on.”

If you’re unsure, honesty is best. Even saying “I don’t know what to say, but I care about you” can be more healing than silence. Letting your loved one know you care can mean more than just silence, assuring them that they’re not alone in their grief.

Practical Ways to Offer Support

Grief can make even simple daily tasks feel overwhelming. That’s why small, practical gestures often speak louder than words. Instead of asking “Do you need anything?” (which may feel too open-ended), offer specific help. Consider:

  • Preparing a meal or arranging meal delivery.
  • Offering childcare, pet care, or help with errands.
  • Sitting with them, listening, or simply being present without pressure to talk.
  • Helping with funeral arrangements or household tasks if welcomed.

Every person’s needs are different, so ask gently: “What would be most helpful right now?” Sometimes, the most meaningful support is your steady presence.

Long-Term Support After the Funeral

While many people visit around the days of a funeral, grief doesn’t end once the service is finished. In fact, the weeks and months afterward are often the loneliest, as initial support fades and reality begins to set in.

You can continue to provide comfort by:

  • Checking in regularly with calls, texts, or visits.
  • Remembering birthdays, anniversaries, or meaningful dates.
  • Encouraging gentle routines like walks, social outings, or hobbies.
  • Being patient — grief has no timeline.

The Hospice Foundation of America shares helpful ideas on how to provide lasting comfort.

CorsoCare Hospice Bereavement Support

At CorsoCare, we know grief is a journey — and no one should have to walk it alone. That’s why we offer a dedicated Bereavement Program for families and loved ones.

Our program provides:

  • Individual and group counseling.
  • Educational resources to navigate the grieving process.
  • Ongoing support for up to 13 months after a loss.

You don’t have to have all the answers, and you don’t have to carry grief alone. Learn more about our bereavement resources or contact CorsoCare Hospice at 866-940-1075 to connect with a team that understands and cares.